Tip # 5b: PUT THE PAST IN THE PAST

If you are a newcomer to this blog it will be very helpful to read my Introduction to these tips, and then my post "How to Use These tips."

What does it mean to "Put the Past in the Past"?

If you are like me 20 years ago, it means absolutely nothing to you. Twenty years ago, I didn't care about what had happened to me in the past. What did it matter to me? That was then, this was now. Why should I even worry about it?

In point of fact, it would never have occurred to me that there was anything from my past that was hindering me. And if someone had told me to put the past in the past in order to have the life of my dreams, I would have thought they weren't even talking about me. I would have figured they were talking about some other folks out there... for instance, the folks out there that are not so very well put together.

However from where I sit now as a Transformational Personal Growth & Life Coach
I can very clearly see this...

In those days I was a walking, talking, open, gaping wound from all that had happened to me, that I did not even think was affecting me.

How could I be an open gaping wound and not even think I was affected by my past?

Our personal past is alive in us in ways that we cannot even see. It has formed our way of thinking, our mind-sets and beliefs, our personal fears and phobias, our insecurities, our beliefs about what we can and cannot do, accomplish, or succeed at. Our personal past drives who we trust and who we don't, based on the lingering attempt not to make the same mistake again.

PS- Our assessment of this is often dead wrong, and causes the very issues we look to avoid. That is why we all have what seem to be never-ending patterns of the same unworkable situations, relationships, jobs, arguments, problems, troubles, and predicaments.

As humans we have over 100 Million Billion trees of learning (or Dendrites) in our brains where we house all of the things we have ever 'learned' in our lifetimes. The lion's share of what we have learned about 'life', 'ourselves', 'how we are' and 'how the world' is has been hard-wired into those dendrites by the painful/traumatic experiences of our lives. The process is often complete by the age of 6, 7, or 8. I am speaking of what we know without even questioning or thinking about it. All of this is wrapped up in what has been called by some experts our 'Identity'.

So I was a walking, talking open-wound because my Identity, formed through victimization and violence at age 5 or 6, was (at the time) an ongoing victim, lacking self-love, lacking confidence, and lacking any true ability to move through all of that brain fog into a successful, vibrant, and enjoyable life.

Now, I do not want to imply that only victims of harsh experience carry their past around in that way. In point of fact every human being on the planet carries a residue of his or her personal past that gets in his or her way, to one extent or another. Even our very physical bodies carry the past around in ways that hinder us greatly. We are all usually blind to that. But the effect of the past on the physical body is a whole post in and of itself, and I will discuss it another time.

So in the mental realm, what happens when we really put the past in the past?

Quite simply said, life becomes the land of miracles. Each time we put a piece of our past firmly in the past, we dissolve the accompanying belief sets and thinking that has hindered us. We begin to have breakthroughs and completely unprecedented results. Life looks totally different than it ever did. Each breakthrough takes our life forward. And it is a leap forward, not a baby step.

When we do this enough, we and our lives literally become unrecognizable. The fragile, insecure, and somewhat impotent human 'Egos' that we all are slip further and further away. We act more and more from our heart centers, the part of us that is connected to others and connected to life or source itself.

Said another way, life goes a million times better for us.

I'm going to give you two hugely powerful resources today to assist you with "Putting the Past in the Past. I am also quite powerful with that, so I give you my current course as well.

To take the fast track in life, consider doing all three things, though not all at once...


1) The Landmark Forum & The Landmark Curriculum for Living

Time Magazine called The Landmark Forum one of the top 10 adventures you can have in life,  second only to a "Trip to The Moon". The Landmark Forum will leave you in the space of "anything is possible for myself and my life." You will believe that 100% and also start creating what you really want.


2) Rikka Zimmerman Take any of her courses, in person and virtual
http://rikkazimmerman.com/


Rikka's courses, and particularly one called "Awakening Heaven on Earth" will blow your mind. Not only does Rikka's work help dissolve the past from your life, it also leaves you more connected to your spirit and divine essence than anything else I know of. Inside of that space, miracles truly happen

3) "Head Over Heels in Love With Me"


This is my 12 week virtual course and the next set begins the week of June 26th, 2017. (If you are past this date when you read this, contact me for the next one.) For this course I have combined all of my most powerful tools into 12 amazing weeks. Here's what you get in the course.

• Old mind-tapes that have stopped you or held you back will be erased forever
• New & Unexpected Results in Life & Business will emerge.
• A new Peace, Excitement, Fulfillment & Clarity About What You Truly Want will blossom.
• You, your life & your business will be revitalized, rejuvenated, & re-energized.

Contact me for more details about this course.


The tools I have given you this week are like nothing else you will ever experience. Most of us spend a lifetime with the weight of our past taking our lives down. For eons people have gone to the grave with the same patterns, blocks, and stopping points- powerless to take life any other way. But it does not have to be that way anymore fro human beings. These tools are your access out.

As always, all of this is contributed to you from a place of humility. Yes I am a Transformational Personal Growth & Life Coach. However, when all is said and done, the biggest trainer we each have is that Higher & Divinely Connected Self within us.

Namaste, beloved friends.

Lorelei Fenton
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Tip # 4: BELIEVING IS SEEING

If you are a newcomer to this blog it will be very helpful to read my Introduction to these tips, and then my post "How to Use These tips."

In my very first post, The Introduction, I spoke a bit about the Law of Attraction, and Quantum Physics. As a Transformational Personal Growth & Life Coach who has done a ton or training
& research I can say this about what is scientifically true…

Whatever we believe in collectively and individually comes true. Quantum Scientists say the reason for this phenomenon is because the very smallest particles of matter, something called Quarks, are actually affected by human beings, individually and collectively. Said another way, the Observer (human being) has an affect on the Observed (Quarks, the building blocks of matter). And one cannot separate the one from the other in the matter of predicting behavior.

Studies have also shown that these Quarks exhibit a behavior which is called “Quantum Entanglement”. What this means is that no matter how far apart a Quark may be from its Entangled Partner, the actions/behavior of one correlate to the actions/behavior of the other. So there is some kind of instantaneous communication between Quarks that is not spoken and not accounted for by any form of communication we human beings know of… except what one might deem as a sort of telepathy, or some sort of information field that is present across extreme distance, and even time.

Meanwhile these Quarks make up every single material ‘thing’ in our universe, living and non-living. That means cats, dogs, stars, planets, chairs, push pins, hat racks, volcanoes, plants, and anything & everything else we can possibly think of. So information flows mysteriously between Quarks, the smallest building blocks of matter, AND human beings are intricately connected to what those Quarks actually do.

But we do not need to get so very scientific to have full and indisputable proof that Believing is Seeing. We can look to our own lives. For instance have you ever noticed that your friend, who believes and says that all men are fickle, never has a committed man in her life. Or have you noticed that your sister, who thinks and says that money is very difficult to get, is always broke.  Or have you noticed that you yourself live in a run, run, run world, and you also fully believe that there is never enough time.

Now at this point many people might say “But you are missing the point…All men ARE fickle, Money IS very difficult and There simply is NOT enough time.” And I might concur with this on some level if I had not seen or helped hundreds of people rid themselves of these kinds of belief sets (and also done it at least a thousand times for myself) and seen the striking results. Suddenly, when the core belief is uprooted, there are only committed men coming around, or loads of money begins to pour in, or time becomes plentiful, and lounging around at a leisurely pace becomes the norm. 

We who work or play at altering our own and other people’s often toxic belief sets don’t need a single bit of proof that “Believing is Seeing.” It is abundantly clear to us that whatever an individual really believes, has in fact come true for him or her.

I will give you a personal example… 

When I first began to delve into what I might call "uncreating" beliefs I believed with 100% surety that there was something wrong with me. Of course I never told this to anyone. I tried to pretend I was confident. But the struggle in my mind was a nightmare. I never wanted to say what was on my mind, for fear I might make some mistake, or upset someone, or reveal my flaws. I examined my unspoken thoughts to the hilt, then discarded 90% of them as unable to be spoken. Even a comment on the weather could be taken incorrectly, I was sure. So I shut up a lot, and was completely stifled and uneasy. When I did speak as Lorelei, it was not with much power. Interestingly I could speak beautifully as an actress in a role, but not as ME in my life, or on a stage.

After seeing the root cause of why I felt there was something wrong with me (a specific incident of violation at a young age) I started to speak up and speak out as me. After years of this, I now make a living at Public Speaking. Often this entails telling people things that might upset them, but which make a big difference to them. 

So to sum up, I believed there was something wrong with me and so there was, at least in the area of speaking. I saw something I had never seen which had me stop believing there was something wrong with me, and the issue went away. I was then able to speak with power- eventually being able to say anything to anyone, no matter how touchy the subject, and say it in a way that made a difference for them.

Believing is Seeing. If you believe something, it will show up in your life.

There are two major ways we can approach the world of “Believing is Seeing” in order to have a life that we love.

1) We can uproot and dismantle our disempowering beliefs. When we do this for a certain issue or area of life, new empowering beliefs always show up. This is quite an amazing and powerful process, where we experience literal “quantum leaps” in life. This is the work that I personally do for people. So this week one tool I am giving you is "Me." Reach out to me via facebook or linkedIn below, if you would like to chat about uprooting your disempowering beliefs.

2) We can practice our God given ability to imagine and visualize. The more we 'see' what we want, 'experience' it, and especially 'feel the feeling' of having it, doing it, or being it, the more it will materialize for us. The Masterful Mr. Jack Canfield has a great article on visualization here.

In addition, if you have not seen, read or listened to “The Secret” yet, consider that you are a bit behind the 8 ball. The Secret (movie, book, audio tape) has a wealth of information on “Believing is Seeing”,  as well as on the power of visualization. Here is the link the website.

Of course the most powerful way to approach “Believing is Seeing” is to practice both of the above methods. Because you or I could spend all day, every day visualizing the love of our lives, seeing what he or she looks like, acts like and IS like. But if there is a core belief that we are not attractive to the opposite sex, for instance, those beautiful people that we are visualizing are just not going to show up in our lives.

So here is an important point to make...If we are visualizing and doing affirmations but getting little result, then it is almost a given that there is some core belief that is diametrically opposed to our having what we want. Dismantling that belief is the missing link that needs to be addressed to get what we desire.

In one of my first posts, “Separating the Wheat From the Chaff”, I spoke also about the strong probability that we human beings of the earth will soon be moving to a higher vibration, or frequency as they say. In the higher vibrations thoughts become material things nearly instantaneously. Belief has become 'knowing 'in the higher vibrations, with zero doubt or question, so what we desire materializes. I am speaking about the loaves and fishes now, for it is presupposed that Jesus was at a much higher  vibration than anyone else at the time.

Next time discuss on tip # 4 I will talk more about this instantaneous materializing, and how we can take strong steps in that direction. If you are interested to take a Quantum Leap now, I direct you to this particular Meet-up group called Ancient Awakenings.

This step correlates largely to the Naval Chakra, which deals with our dreams, ambitions and fantasies. According to Master Teacher Diana Cooper, the Archangel Gabriel watches over this Chakra. We can ask for his assistance with this Chakra, and he is always delighted to help.

Visualizing is tons of fun, and uprooting beliefs sets is truly a thrill. So enjoy this step!

As always, all of this is contributed to you from a place of humility. Yes I am a Transformational Personal Growth & Life Coach. However, when all is said and done, the biggest trainer we each have is that Higher & Divinely Connected Self within us.

Namaste. I send you love, light, joy, fun, play, ease and wild abundance.
Lorelei Fenton
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Tip # 3: THE HOLY ART OF PLAY

If you are a newcomer to this blog it will be very helpful to read my Introduction to these tips, and then my post "How to Use These tips."

As a Transformational Personal Growth & Life Coach I can say this...

In my humble opinion, there is not much closer to the spirit of God than the Act of Creation. When God created, he/she gave birth to us all.. He/she gave birth to the entire cosmos and all beings, and life forms, and all planets, and all galaxies, and all universes, and all material things, and all Angels, and all of Everything. So when WE create, we give life to something and we are fully being the God-part of ourselves.

Many of us here on the earth have wondered about the why of creation. For what purpose, we ask, was all of this made? Why did it all come into existence? There have been answers galore to this question, spanning through the eons of all time. But as far as I can see the only answer that seems to make any real sense, the only answer that comes from any true God-like unconditional love and freedom is this one...

It was all created just for the fun of it. All of this was created for the sheer joy of creation itself.

Wow. Isn't that wonderful. We can now let go of all of our have-tos, and shoulds, and guilts about what we did or did not accomplish here on this planet to date. Because we have no real agenda. We have no real duty. We just simply exist for the joy of it. And by our very existence, we have pleased God.

YAAAYYYY....That is so great and such a relief.

I myself have lived entire decades of my life feeling a low grade of guilt for all I did or did not do, for all my perceived failures or lacks of success. I thought, erroneously, I could only please God by doing something amazing like solving world hunger or causing world peace. I spent a lot of years trying to figure out how I could do something amazing like that. It was a daunting task to set for myself, and quite psychologically defeating. Meanwhile the struggle to do that literally forced me to abject poverty at one point in my life. (That's a long story and I will save it for another day.)

But what a relief to finally see that just by being here we are successes, and a pleasure to God. We are 1000% valuable just by your very existence.

Some of us would like to argue that this is not true- that we are not so very great or beloved, just by our mere existence. But I do get messages from the Angels beyond the veil, so to speak. Many of us are getting such communications these days, and I discuss this a bit in my writing "Separating the Wheat from The Chaff." So this is what THE ANGELS say about each and every one of us. We ARE beloved beyond imagining. Shall we then argue with the Angels?

So if God created all of this and all of us for the sheer joy of it, just to play and have fun, then it stands to reason that fun and play are very holy things. It looks as if fun and play are actually just as holy as the Act of Creation. So we shall now capitalize the holy words "Fun" and "Play", just as we do the  holy word "God". :)

So if you look, we could even argue that the only forms of lasting Creation come from being in the space of Fun and Play. Being in Fun and Play we create things that are truly valuable and lasting. We will not abandon these creations, half done. We stick with them for the sheer joy of creating them. And these joyful creations are the things that we all value the most, are they not? Consider the model airplane you took joy in creating at age 16. Then you proudly displayed it on the shelf and kept it there for years. Store bought things came and went, but that model airplane stayed on the shelf.

When we create something that we truly love, we are naturally having Fun and Playing. So Fun, Play, and Creation go hand in hand.

Now I want to expand what we all think Creation is...Yes it is art. Yes it is music. Yes it is architecture, and Legos, and bridges, and plays, and songs and arboretums and museums, and horse farms, and restaurants, and cuisines, and task forces, and magazines, and lobbying campaigns, and books, and business plans, and anything at all that we each enjoy "creating."

But creation is much more...

Creation is when you go outside with your son to throw the baseball, and suddenly you are laughing and smiling with him. That is a moment of joy you have created.

Creation is when you are making love (arguably the highest form of creation) and your eyes meet and you both pause in wonder at the beauty you see there. That is a moment of love you have created.

Creation is when you sit around with friends in the yard after a picnic and suddenly you point to the clouds and everyone sees the outline of a unicorn. That is a moment of wonder you have created.

Creation is literally taking the time to live moment by moment and see what you can do, make, or cause, alone and with others... just for the sheer joy of it.

And when you truly create from your God-self, you will be having fun, playing, loving your life, and loving others.

So now here are my radical tools for this step, step number 3.

1) MAKE PLAY AND FUN YOUR JOB. Do it every day and let it lead you to whatever there is to create, even in the world of money.

2) CREATE WHATEVER WILL PUT YOU IN THE SPACE OF FUN AND PLAY.
    Whatever creation makes your heart sing in the moment, do it.

When we do these two things every day, our lives become magical. We are exuding that positive joy energy, and life opens up. What we want begins to literally come right to us. Bank accounts often grow magically. In the work I do, for instance, this tool of bringing in "Play" literally saved one particular couple from breaking up their whole marriage. This kind of thing certainly happens, as long as we are not thwarting ourselves in some other ways that we will talk about later.

This step is associated with the Sacral Chakra, which is just above the root chakra. It is the chakra of creativity, and sexuality. This chakra is overseen by Archangel Gabriel and his twin flame, Archangel Hope. You may ask either for assistance as follows...

"Dearest Archangel Hope/Gabriel. Please assist me with being in creation, letting go of work and struggle and embracing the holy energies of Fun and Play. Please drop ideas into my head when I begin to work or struggle, and show me moment by moment, what miraculous things I can create with Fun, Play, and Ease. Thank you for the immense blessing that you are, and for all you bring to my life."

Here are some ideas of what may be Fun for you.


A) Create Visual Art- all kinds
-You don't have to be Monet. Even coloring is a creation. (And one we adults have forgotten that we love to do!)

B) Create Performance Art- Music, Dance, Theater
- It doesn't have to be big,
(Remember that there is a kid inside yourself... one who used to put together a play for the grown-ups with your cousins in half an hour.)

C) Build 'things'
-model airplanes, jewelry, knitting, foot-bridges, cabinets, doll houses, anything and everything you like and find joy in.

D) Create a group (such as a meet-up)
-for anything you like, enjoy, or find fulfillment in.

E) Write
-poetry, a book, a movie, as short story, a song

F) Beautify your home or garden
-add plants and flowers, stencil, create a meditation room, make a fish pond

G) Play a game with the kids, and create some moments of Fun

H) Snuggle on the couch with your honey and create some moments of love
-afterwards, if the mood strikes, you can even create the act of creating new life. That is certainly fun and playful. :)

There are too many ways to Create, have Fun and Play for me to name them all here, Do what YOU love, whatever that may be.

Note: Remember to keep the content of your creation or art in the space of fun, play, and ease. If you create from doom, gloom, and misery you will miss the whole point of finding your Play, and Fun. 

Sometimes art (visual, performance, written) can be used to purge our pain. This the creation of a form of healing. Healing is a holy thing. But such pain-based forms of art must be used sparingly, lest they mindlessly create what we don't really want. By this I mean the creation of more suffering and pain. In such cases we as the viewer become much like rubber-kneckers, morbidly fascinated by the scene of an accident, and likely to cause one ourselves. This is a pretty good analogy, because whatever we focus on, collectively and individually, tends to increase.

A wonderful resource for you to learn how to play, and live in the wonder of life is Ms. Rita Abrego, a facilitator for something called "Access Consciousness." I learned all I know about this issue from her. She is truly a Divine Master at Fun, Play, and Ease. She has a wonderful facebook page of resources. It is a closed group, but you may be able to join upon request.

Here is her email address.

Rita Abrego      liquifyingreality@gmail.com

I am now also playing with my favorite thing and one of my highest joys... singing & making songs. With this I plan to bring transformational thinking, freedom, and brother/sisterhood to the world. Watch my video. Support/endorse/share as you can. :))

As always, all of this is contributed to you from a place of humility. Yes I am a Transformational Personal Growth & Life Coach. However, when all is said and done, the biggest trainer we each have is that Higher & Divinely Connected Self within us.

THIS WEEK MY LAST WORDS TO YOU ARE ENJOY, ENJOY, ENJOY!!!


Lorelei Fenton

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